There’s a few passages in the bible that Jesus asks us to hate, especially people, which I found odd. Today’s gospel again shows this up as he says “If any man comes to me without hating his father, mother, wife, children, brothers, sisters, yes and his own life too, he cannot be my disciple. Anyone who does not carry his cross and come after me cannot be my disciple.”
For years I’ve just let this pass, knowing that there is a deeper meaning to obviously needing to love God more than anything else. But interestingly, the homilist says that biblical language did not have the mnemonics of comparisons i.e. it didn’t say John is taller than Jane by 10cm. All it said was John is tall, Jane is short. And in some internet searches I found the explanation also to be that :
“The answer lies in the Aramaic word [transliterated] sone’
to put aside
to have an aversion to
So with this in mind, the more correct translation of Luke 14:26: “If any man comes to me, and doesn’t put aside his own father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.” “
And so I ponder upon my relationship with Jesus and also reflect upon my own ego to see if I’m ok that my wife is called to love God more than me. We are mere companions on a journey and the centre of both our spiritual lives are to be connected to the divine.
Thus the often-used term of having 3 persons in the marriage makes sense, because when you get the centre of attention right, the love follows through the husband and wife. And naturally to the children that come along.
I’ve been reading Scott Hahn’s The First Society, and he indeed makes a strong case of how many of society’s problems today are caused by the breakdown of individual marriages, the culture, and concept of it.